29 Lessons Over 29 Years

This year is my golden year! 29 years old on the 29th March. What I love about this little thing we call life is that there are endless lessons to be learned and to grow from. Some are significantly more painful than others, but growth appears, nonetheless. And whilst I know that I’ve had more painful lessons that I’d like in the last couple of years, I look forward to the many joyful lessons and learnings I’ll take from this year and those ahead, so here are my 29 lessons for my 29 years and pretty much my entire philosophy for living mindfully and mindfully in this modern world.

 

  1. Life can be gone in the blink of an eye. Make the time that you have count. You never know when it could come to an end - that’s both a serious wake-up call and incredibly empowering. It’s yours to steer.

  2. Amazing things can happen when you least expect them.

  3. Love the fuck out of yourself. There’s only one you and life is too darn short to torture yourself.

  4. Appreciate what you have, show love, gratitude and kindness always. You never know what’s going on for someone beneath their surface.

  5. Forgiveness is what frees you. Release, let go and move on. Resentment is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies. No bueno.

  6. Move for your mind as much as you do for a rockin’ bod. It’s what keeps you sane.

  7. Experiment, tweak, evolve - there’s no rulebook that says you need to stay in the same place, as the same person, doing the same thing forever.

  8. Listen. Actively. Don’t say unkind things, you can’t get your words back.

  9. Have faith that it’ll all work out. Even if it doesn’t when or how you expect it to.

  10. Eating junk and crap only makes you feel like junk and crap. Nourish your body, it’s the only one you’ve got.

  11. Quality over quantity. Beauty products, furniture, clothes, lovers, friends, food and all the rest.

  12. Just because everyone else is doing it, doesn’t mean you need to.

  13. Light and sunshine is a superdrug. Chase it, find it, welcome it.

  14. Speak up. Someone can’t know if they hurt you if you don’t tell them. People aren’t mind readers. Go for a walk, clear your mind and then open up, speak your truth, without the sting of anger or annoyance and be willing to communicate.

  15. If it won’t matter in 5 years, don’t spend more than 5 minutes worrying about it.

  16. And on that, worrying is wasted energy. Breathe. Pause. Prioritize. Act.

  17. When inspiration strikes, ACT ON IT. Don’t let your mind talk you out of what your heart is screaming at you to do.

  18. The secret to success? Passion and perseverance. Seeing failures as opportunities to grow, not wallow and quit.

  19. Sometimes a good cry solves a lot. But when you’re done, pick yourself back up and recalibrate to try again or redirect your energy.

  20. Spoil your furry friends. They’re such angels and deserve every ounce of love you possess.

  21. The secret to a healthy, happy relationship? Crystal clear communication, lots of laughs and a willingness to give and receive -  in some ways that you won’t always expect.

  22. You don’t need to wear so many masks. People will and CAN love you as your authentic self. Share that. And those that don’t? That’s okay. You won’t be everyone's cup of tea, but that’s so, so okay, you’ll find your tribe.

  23. Little everyday luxuries and moments, that matcha in the sunshine by the window, that piece of super rich dark chocolate, those 20 minutes meditating with your crystals and special meditation cushion bring so much joy. Make time and space for them.

  24. Work smarter, not more.

  25. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem and smarter than you think.

  26. Don’t be afraid to say no and set boundaries. They’ll keep you sane.

  27. Never ever dim your light for fear of what others might say/think/do. Who cares, really? Own who you are and what you want. You might just end up inspiring them to do the same.

  28. There can be silver linings to ANYTHING if you are open to them. There is always opportunity to find joy in pain. Always.

  29. A good night sleep solves everything.

 

What are some of the most important lessons you’ve learnt in your lifetime?